Non-negotiables don't sound very sexy but the thing is it's about having boundaries, and boundaries also doesn't sound very sexy, but they are pivotal to helping you step up and stay in your power.
I previously never really paid much attention to what my boundaries were unless they had been crossed by myself or someone else so significantly that I needed to react.
Now you can probably imagine, this wasn't the healthiest or the happiest situation for me.
Living a life that is reactive rather than proactive constantly puts us at the whims of the world's - or so it can appear.
Today as we talk about defining and aligning with your non-negotiables, I really invite you to consider this as a way to better prepare yourself ahead of time so that you aren't running up against boundary violations and unexpected complications as often.
(I won't say never because we live in a world that is as much chaos as it is order and things sometimes simply happen.)
And I want to start with a mic drop moment today: you do not need to compromise yourself for success.
Perhaps you haven't realised you've been doing this but every time you get that gut feeling that this opportunity isn't meant for you or that instinctual knowing of what you really want to do but instead you go with what you've always done or what that person whoever they may be says is the right move - that a sign of your compromising yourself.
And each and every time we hear our inner guidance system speak up and we decide to turn it down, what we do is break self-trust and train ourselves out of choosing ourselves.
This is compromising in the worst sense of the word.
(Let's be clear: there are times when we need to be flexible and due to our current resources or situation it is totally in alignment to pivot - check out this blog for more on perfecting the pivot - but that is not what were talking about today.)
The Power of Setting Non-Negotiables: A Guide to Defining Yours is going to help you get clear on where that line is between what can be flexible and what needs to be fixed for your own integrity and for you to remain in alignment.
Let's clear up a common misconception first:
You need to get clear on your non-negotiables aka your boundaries before you need to use them and before you are 'successful'.
So many times I've worked with clients that think they need to do things along the way regardless of their personal preference, their capacity or what it will take from them because that is simply 'what you have to do to get ahead'.
Compromising themselves and their boundaries and then wondering why the vision they're creating does not feel like their own.
And we are running a FREE masterclass on this topic on the 7th of August over in the private FB community Aligned Action Taker - head HERE and request to join us (and catch the replays of he first 2 classes!)
So a quick question: do you want to hustle to a goal of feel at home when you get there?
Because if you are avoiding defining and abiding by your non-negotiables in life and business you are not ready for the kind of success you are claiming you desire. This isn’t to beat you up or keep you down - it is a loving and firm reminder that this is your time to shine and not stand in someones else’s shadow.
Now it's going to a simple 3 step process to get you clear on your non-negotiables now.
1. Connect to your vision of your ideal life day (either through visualisation or journalling) and list all the things you DO and DON’T DO because you have the freedom of choice.
2. Highlight the non-negotiables. Those choices that are a direct reflection of your gifts, preferences and capacity.
3. Consider: where are you currently negotiating on these values and what can you do to begin shifting this in your life and business?
I would be remiss if I didn't mention once more that depending on your circumstances it might be difficult to honour what you identified as a non-negotiable, and at this stage in your journey there might be more flexibility then fixed boundaries and regardless of what you feel like you need to do to survive you are still deserving and worthy of everything that it is you desire.
One of the beautiful ripple effects of having done the work above is that now you get to reference this as often as possible, it gets to become your standard practise, it begins to be imbedded in how you work, how you live and how you move through the world and that is priceless and also timeless.
There is no rush but you've just taken awesome step forward.
I invite you to let me know what landed, what resonated and what really gave you your own aha moment today and share that with me below in the comments or reach out to me directly and let me know!
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Nikki x
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